So, I have this fantastic friend. She’s pretty amazing and I admire a lot of the stuff she does. But she is, as so many people are, pretty insecure about herself, her abilities, her talents, and it manifests in a lot of apologizing for herself and a lot of putting herself down.
This drives me batty. Because I think she’s so fantastic.
And because I used to do a lot of the same thing, a long time ago. We self-denigrate for a lot of reasons: defensive strategy, habit, “modesty.”
Let’s stop that. Today, I dare you not to apologize for yourself.
I mean, obviously, if you accidentally knock someone down the stairs you can apologize for that. But if you’re just hanging out and you feel the words forming in your mouth, especially in any sort of preemptive fashion, bite them back. Don’t let them out.
You do not take up too much space. You are not an inconvenience. You are not a slacker. If it’s the first time you’ve ever done something, you do not have to apologize for not being perfect at it. If you have done something a hundred thousand million times, you still do not have to apologize for not being perfect at it.
Save your apologies for when/if you genuinely injure/harm someone. Go all day without apologizing for yourself and see what it feels like to exist without begging someone’s pardon.
I dare you.
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