Note the first: I think we could all use a change of subject, at least for a minute, right? Then we’ll talk about food in fat acceptance, the ethics of food, and how to have a conversation about food that doesn’t wind up sounding like policing.

Note the second:
Y’all, the more I take pictures, the more I want some other style representation here, too. If you are a butch (oh, dandy butches, I love you) of any variety (other butches, I love you, too) who works in an office and therefore has to conform to some sort of dress code, and you feel you have done so in a way that preserves your personality, would you please consider submitting some outfit photos? I’d LOVE to showcase some other fatshuns. Please send your photos and outfit information (any info you would like to share!) to the rotund at the rotund dot com!


Me, in a cinnamon-toned image so you can see the details of my all-black outfit

I’ve filtered this so you can see more of the details of my outfit. The problem with wearing all black is that, well, it’s hard to take a photo of it in the bathroom mirror. *laugh* I wore this to work on a day I knew I’d be staying hella late – I had, in fact, stayed hella late the night before.

Sometimes, knowing I am going to wear something I find awesome is the thing that gets me motivated to get out of bed and get dressed.

You know, I realize I have the exact same pose in almost every single picture. I should work on that. It’s just such a comfortable posture!

This is a comfy black ponte knit pencil skirt. It’s from Avenue, size 22/24, that I got on clearance AGES ago. I have the same one in plum. They are total staples. I’m wearing a totally simple camisole, also from Avenue (probably also on clearance). And that’s a satin bolero from Torrid – a size 3 – from ages and ages ago. They almost always have something similar in stock. I have the satin ruched pencil skirt that goes with this particular bolero and I love it to bits. I’m wearing some of the colorsplash tights from We Love Colors because even though it’s August, it’s in the low 70s in my office. A coworker had mentioned those particular tights the night before, so I dug them out of the tights box. I’m also wearing my Fluevog Vermeer ankle boots.

Me, in color

You can see how bright the tights are here. I know it’s not a look for everyone, but it worked for me – I felt sassy and myself. And I wore those boots all day and all night – I was at work for 14 hours and they were still comfortable.

My hair was kind of frazzled.


I wore a much darker lipstick than I’d usually wear to work – Night Violet, which is a mattene lipstick from MAC. I actually didn’t wear any eyeshadow because I didn’t have the hand-eye coordination I would have needed to put any one. *laugh* It was a long week.

That necklace is actually a much longer one – I doubled it over so I could wear it more as a short piece. I do that a lot with necklaces.

My Vermeers and my tights

Y’all, these boots. I cannot even tell you how much I love them. They are super comfortable. The heel is this amazing piece of architecture – it’s octagonal. I wear, when measured, a 7.5 EEE – I have a wide little duck foot with short toes. Fluevogs are all cut on different lasts, so you really do have to try them on – there are some styles that are way too narrow for me. But the ones that are wide enough? Worth every penny.

A commenter on Flickr said, basically, that the tights looked like impressionist skies – which is one of the coolest comments I’ve ever gotten. I’ve started to look at this outfit as a little bit of a Baroque and Impressionism mashup, and that just makes me happy.

There are always going to be days we just aren’t feeling it. I think dressing up a little bit helps – at least when I have the energy for it. Some days are comfy pants days and that is okay, too.

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  1. Alice
    Posted August 11, 2011 at 2:58 pm | Permalink

    I adore those boots!

    I have three pairs of those colorsplash tights, and wearing them just makes me happy! I think I have some of that same color- is it sort of limey yellow, teal and green? Love them, anyway!

  2. Posted August 11, 2011 at 3:27 pm | Permalink

    My friends and I have started an academic fashion blog, and since academic fashion is similar to workplace attire, I thought I’d share. We’re mostly queer and trans and some of us are disabled, and we’re committed to showcasing a wide variety of bodies (we have some great butch dandys and transguy fashionistas in the pipeline) and some of us are fat (that’s mostly me), but folks might be interested. It’s very brand new, but we’re really excited about it, and always accepting post submissions.

    Sorry to promote myself in the comments, but I thought it was relevant.

    I am so in love with those tights and shoes…

    • justme
      Posted August 11, 2011 at 11:28 pm | Permalink

      I peeked at your blog! I adored your black and white hounds-tooth dress. I feel like I wore this dress before or saw it in a magazine and coveted it. Of course your personal style is amazing and very un-vulgar! Good Luck in your blog, I will check back there again soon.

  3. Auds
    Posted August 11, 2011 at 3:40 pm | Permalink

    I have a question for you other fats. I find that wearing heels KILLS my feet. Even very small heels. I love the way they look but man, I live in NYC and commuting by foot just makes it impossible to rock anything other than a flat. However, I have found that wedges are okay, and I wondered: do my feet hurt more than thins in heels because I have a relatively small foot (size 6) and a relatively heavy body on top? Like the lbs per square inch being borne by my feet would be much higher than a 130 lb person with a size 9 foot. Has anyone else noticed this? It is just me? Is this a weird idea? Anybody who was once a thin and is now a fat have insight? It could be that I am just a baby about foot pain…

    • Posted August 11, 2011 at 5:05 pm | Permalink

      to Auds
      I think it is individual to the person as well as the shoe

      I wear size 11 and I LOVE wedges

      I can wear some heels as long as they are well made (‘vogs are one of the brands)

      but I hate most skinny heels

      but wedges I think are comfy for most as the weight is distributed through the entire foot

    • Angel
      Posted August 11, 2011 at 5:21 pm | Permalink

      You’re completely right about smaller feet being harder for big girls. I used to be thin and rock the size 5 heels. Now I’m fat and rock the size 6. No heels. Ever.

      (of course I am a baby about foot pain)

    • Tante Fledermaus
      Posted August 11, 2011 at 10:24 pm | Permalink

      I find that my foot pain has less to do with my size and more to do with the frequency of the heel-wearing. I used to wear heels all the time, and my feet got used to the idea. Now that I wear hiking boots to work every day (for the last 9 years or so), my feet screech at me every time I wear anything else.

      My ankles get a little crabby at me when I go over 183. They’re really specific. 182, ankles fine. 184, ankles really sore all the time. Weird as hell. I wonder if there’s some sort of ankle exercise I should be doing to make them complain less…

      • Tante Fledermaus
        Posted August 11, 2011 at 10:26 pm | Permalink

        And if I owned those Fluevogs, I’d suffer through the pain. >swoooooooooon for the shoes<

    • Christine
      Posted August 12, 2011 at 3:43 pm | Permalink

      I’m a smaller fat, but I’ve found that age has done a number on my heel height tolerance more than weight. I’ve been about the same weight since college (plus or minus always the same tenish pounds) and used to wear a lot more heels than I do now, with less foot fatigue. Of course it also depends on the heel – sturdier = better for me, the shoemaker and the make of the shoe. I currently have about three inch heels that I can wear all day – Soft (Sofft?) brand, that I bought at a Marshalls/TJ Maxx type store. They are closed toe, with a thick ankle band and a thicker heel. I’ve worn them for 14 hours with only some achiness by the end of the day.

  4. Shinobi
    Posted August 11, 2011 at 4:49 pm | Permalink

    I love those shoes, they do not come in my size, it makes me cry. (Like seriously though, I have never felt about shoes the way I do about fluevogs.)

  5. Posted August 11, 2011 at 5:22 pm | Permalink

    I never ever ever wear tights (maybe I should start?) but those boots are adorable! Glad you found a comfy pair you can wear for long periods.

  6. Posted August 11, 2011 at 5:51 pm | Permalink

    You look absolutely gorgeous. Such a nice silhouette on you. And I love your hair. I want that look, but I’m not sure if my body type will allow for pencil skirts. They look great on you, though!

  7. Posted August 11, 2011 at 6:31 pm | Permalink

    <3 Fluevogs. I bought some teal bowling-shoe-looking badass Fluevogs last year and I love them to bitty pieces.

    Those tights are indeed beautiful, as is the whole ensemble!

  8. Ruth
    Posted August 12, 2011 at 5:59 am | Permalink

    Sometimes you just need a pair of awesome shoes, which those most certainly are! I wish we could get fluevogs here.. But that skirt is putting me very much in a finally buy a damn pencil skirt mood- they are just so so pretty.

  9. peregrin8
    Posted August 12, 2011 at 3:10 pm | Permalink

    ye gods, those shoes are splendid.

    also, i reeeeally love your hair!

  10. Posted August 13, 2011 at 2:29 pm | Permalink

    I love the we love colors splash tights. I have a similar blue pair except mine also have pink in them. I wore capri leggings yesterday and it was 26C and I survived so I imagine a full tight wouldn’t be too excruciating.

  11. Posted August 13, 2011 at 10:21 pm | Permalink

    There are no words for how awesome those boots are. No words. Also, the outfit is lovely, and you look gorgeous!

  12. Lisa
    Posted August 17, 2011 at 1:56 pm | Permalink

    What about non-butches? Do you want pics from us too? I can send some. : )

  13. Deb
    Posted September 6, 2012 at 10:49 pm | Permalink

    Love love love this post. I adore your outfit and especially THE BOOTS!! I am new to the FA world and working through (pain, lots and lots of pain)letting go of the hatred of my fat body that has been forcefed to me my entire life. How I rejoice in your fabulousness. xxx

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