I am interrupting the blog post I’ve been working on about exercise and HAES and weight loss obsessive thoughts to say this:
“Real women have curves” was a marketing slogan thought up to sell people overpriced, ill-fitting pants. It does NOT promote body positivity – it only perpetuates body policing by turning the tables on people who don’t fit into yet another arbitrary ideal.
The job is to BUST THE FUCKING PARADIGM APART, not shift it a little bit toward the fat side. The job is to remind people, bodies are not public property and your opinion about an individual’s body is only an opinion, not a valid judgment of their worth as a human being. The JOB is to destroy systemic oppression of nonconforming, rebellious bodies no matter what those bodies look like.
Bodies naturally come in all types. It is ridamndiculous that our “acceptable” body standard, as a culture, has reached the point where even people held up as icons of perfection can’t actually achieve “acceptable” without being photoshopped to hell and back. Do we really need to have a discussion about how turning the tables and saying nasty things about those bodies actively hurts the cause of fat acceptance – not because it makes people think we’re mean but because WE ARE BETTER THAN THAT KIND OF BULLSHITTERY. I am not gaining my body liberation through the oppression of other bodies, people. That kind of fucked up body colonialism is unacceptable.
This is one reason I’m so over euphemisms for describing fatties. “Curvy” and “real” and all that bullshit just perpetuates the idea that that is ONE acceptable body type and that some people aren’t it. I know humans often seem to exhibit this impulse to categorize – not only to categorize but to assign qualitative value to – our world but, you know what? We have brains. We have self-awareness. We have the ability to think beyond our unthinking impulses.
Responding to oppression with more oppression doesn’t work, no matter how much marketers count on it making you feel good. Marketers are not trying to change the world – WE are trying to change the world.
Bodies are real, all of them. The end. Period.
(Also, also, if you look at someone and want to fuck them, that doesn’t make them automatically healthy. Stop conflating health and fuckability.)
Direct confrontation isn’t everyone’s bag, I totally get that. But if you have the energy for it and you see or hear someone blathering on about how “real women have curves” or about “skinny bitches” or whatever as if it’s supposed to be body positive? Please lay it out there that they aren’t helping. It doens’t have to be a fight. But I think it’s more and more important for us to grind this butt under our big fat heel until it is OUT, OUT DAMNED SPOT, to mix my metaphors.
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